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Sunday, August 2, 2009

Make Amends

Guilt sucks.

Many of us carry this huge pile of unpleasantness on our shoulders.

We manage to ignore it most of the time. But sometimes, it rises up and bites us. It prevents us from reviving an old friendship, or going to a reunion, or visiting a former company.

All because we have wronged someone, and have never made it right.

Well, confession, friends, is good for the soul.

You've probably heard of a "twelve-step program." Have you ever actually read the Twelve Steps?

Here are four of them:

4. [We] made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. [We] admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
8. [We] made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. [We] made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

That's huge.

It's also an essential ingredient in removing the causes of behavior that's harmful to oneself and to others.

Give this some thought. And if it seems right, stop hiding. Steel yourself. And make amends.

You'll be happier.

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