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Friday, October 30, 2009

Be Important to (at Least) One Someone

Here's a longer-than-usual quote. In the film Shall We Dance, one character explains:

We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness."

I expect to be "vagabonding" the rest of my life, and I want to have that one person with whom I can reminisce, one person who knows all the people I've known for years, one person who can remember all the great food.

For me, that person is my wife.

But a spouse is not the only option. When I worked on a TV show, I discovered that the cowboys who wrangled the show really do run in pairs, and call each other "pardner." I know single men who have partnered up for decades of ministry. And I've known lots of older people with "special friends" of the opposite sex who were always there for each other, despite the absence of any romantic, um, "activity."

I've also seen this kind of relationship between a parent and an adult child, between long-time neighbors, and even between working colleagues. (I've had a few of those myself.)

Call it a friend, in the truest sense. The person you clip out articles for, the first one with whom you share good news, and the proverbial "shoulder you cry on."

So reach out. Find that special someone that you can be special to, in a deep, fulfilling way. And if you already have one, tell him or her how much you value that relationship.

You'll be happier.

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