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Friday, November 20, 2009

Set Your Own Standard

Once my friend Susie was working in a record company. A self-important visiting "big-wig" went on a tirade one day and yelled at her, "You’re just a short dumb blonde secretary!"

She pulled herself up to her full five-feet-one and yelled back, "I am not short!"

How short is short? How smart is smart? How pretty is pretty?

Who says the other guys get to set the standards?

It seems that much of the unhappiness I see comes from people comparing themselves--unfavorably--to others.

And even those who "win" such competitions will eventually be brought down when they meet someone "better" than them.

So here's a corny bit of wisdom: You are the best you that ever was.

It's ok to strive for improvement, growing in wisdom and compassion. But it shouldn't come out like, "Some day I'm going to be wiser than the Buddha and Jesus! I'm going to be more compassionate than Mother Teresa!"

It sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? But then why do we lament being "less" than others: less rich, less handsome, less tall, less slim, less blessed?

Hogwash.

Set your own standard. And dare others to be as good a you as you are.

You'll be happier.

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