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Sunday, December 20, 2009

Clear the Air

Raise your hand if you like pus. Anyone? Anyone?

The natural impulse of a wounded mammal, whether animal or human, is to clean a wound. Drain it (if human), lick it (if animal), but keep it from festering, keep the circulation going, aid the healing process.

Why, then, do we let negative feelings fester? Anger, bitterness, resentment. These are so easily dealt with, and so damaging if left to grow.

The Dalai Lama has been asked if he ever gets angry. Of course, he says. The feeling of anger is natural and unavoidable. But to let that emotion control us is another thing altogether. Natural anger lasts about five seconds; just watch two cats pass each other, hiss, and move on. If we hang on any longer than that, there's trouble.

So, what's eating you? Get together with the other party, talk, and work through the problem together. If you succeed, all is well; if you fail, you'll have the satisfaction of knowing that you tried, making it easier to move on.

Do it.

You'll be happier.

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