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Saturday, December 12, 2009

Get the Facts

Suspicion, like "tolerance," is a kind of limbo-land.

Example 1: You suspect your significant other is cheating on you.

Example 2: You suspect your boss has established an unspoken limit on your advancement.

Example 3: You suspect that your neighbor is stealing your newspaper.

In all three cases, a relationship is frozen. You can't jump left or right, move forward or back, because of suspicion.

So what to do?

Confront, investigate, confirm. Clear the air. Get out and find the facts.

Often, there's something else going on, that a little bit of inquiry would bring out.

Your significant other is planning a surprise party; that explains the whispered phone conversations. Your boss is holding you in reserve for a much better position that's opening up next year. Your subscription to the paper has run out.

Or maybe, he/she is cheating. Your boss is holding you back. Your neighbor is snagging the paper.

Once you know, you can deal with it. But when all you have is suspicion, there's nothing you can do.

So get the facts, then act on them.

You'll be happier.

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