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Friday, January 15, 2010

Write It Out

This week my wife suffered an injustice at the hands of a taxi driver, who switched bad money for good in making change. She wrote a letter about it and sent it to a few close friends.

That's therapy.

Notice that the letter wasn't to the offending party; if it had been, it probably wouldn't be such a good idea to send it.

The point is to write your anger, hurt, upset out of your system. Get it out. Express it.

There's a story about Lincoln and Edwin Stanton, secretary of war. Insulted by one of his generals, Stanton complained to Lincoln, who suggested that he write the offender a letter. Stanton wrote (with some heat!) and showed the letter to Lincoln.

Lincoln, after commending Stanton for the peppery tone of the letter, then recommended that Stanton not send it. The letter, he said, had served its purpose. Stanton felt better, didn't he? Now he should burn it, and write another, more diplomatic.

Next time you're fit to be tied, take it out on a piece of paper (or a keyboard). To send or not to send? Probably better if you don't. But in any case, better to take it out on a piece of paper than to (or on) someone's face.

You'll be happier.

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